I am 36 weeks pregnant. I’m a high risk pregnancy, I am 37 yrs old
and have lost four babies, three in the second trimester, two live
births. My last loss was at 22 weeks exactly a year ago and so I have
been a bit emotional today – usually I am not an emotional person at
all.
I’ve been craving red meat the last few days (I have low iron and take
iron supplements) so I wanted to go to Costco and get some steaks to
cook. We are on a monthly budget for groceries and last time we went
shopping our cereal was on sale so dh decided to stock up, which put
us over our grocery budget. So, when I wanted to get steak he kicked
up a fuss, even after telling him red meat is good if you have low
iron, and maybe if i’m craving red meat I might need to eat some.
Finally he agreed to go, and on the way I figured well maybe I’ll just
get hamburger since its cheaper and I could eat a nice big hamburger
instead of a steak. I listed "ground beef, cheddar cheese and hamburg
buns" for dh to go get (I can’t walk far so I can’t go into Costco.
He says "you want me to get ALL this??!"
I was so ticked off I said (not really meaning it, I’m sure most of us
have done this at times!) "Fine then, let’s just go home!". And he
actually said "okay good" and started driving home – so I called him
an a-hole (I don’t normally swear!) and asked him "Do you think the
grocery budget is more important than the health of your pregnant wife
and child?" He said "Some people can’t afford to go over their
grocery budget"… I told him that we CAN because we have the money,
it’s just we’re trying to save money. He went in and got the stuff,
we brought it home and I cooked up some really good burgers. He
couldn’t figure out why I wouldn’t give him a hug or kiss when he came
into the kitchen (dummy!).
I asked him if after supper if he realized why I was upset and he said
"Because I stood between you and food?". I doubt he will ever get it.
I am a bit afraid that he seemed to put money over health, and he
didn’t even realize or say anything about me buying hamburger instead
of steak. We’ve been married a few years now so I’m a bit surprised
about his attitude.
Since I doubt he will ever understand and it’s something that worries
me may happen again in the future (considering money over health),
what should I do? I am very upset over this but don’t know if I’m
over reacting because I’m pregnant and emotional!